FAQ and Important Info
What to Bring:
Things to make you comfortable:
Printed out google directions to the property. There is no cell service so you cannot rely on your phone.
A spare car key
A battery charger if you plan on using your phone for photos.
A shade structure
There are very few trees that are safe to camp under.
A tent! This is a camping experience. Don’t forget your tent stakes :slightly_smiling_face:.
Everything that goes in a tent, sleeping pads, and blankets, pillows (check the weather before you leave for appropriate warmth)
A tarp to go under your tent.
A small sledgehammer to put your tent stakes into the ground.
Everyone sits on pillows on carpeted ground. We have some, but if you want your own pillow, please bring it. We also sit on them during workshops, performances and the community circle.
We are providing dishware this year (plates, bowls, flatware)! Just bring your own vessel for water. You will still need to clean your own dishes.
WATER! As we have been blessed by rain, attendees now get to enjoy the propane heated outdoor showers. You will, however, need to bring TWO 2.5 gallon waters--one of which will get dropped off at the greeter station when you arrive, the other which you will keep for personal consumption--the one you surrender will be added to the communal water stations that are conveniently located for us all to enjoy.
Eco Friendly shower soaps. We do not want to harm the land.
A camelback hydration system if you have it. A good old fashioned water bottle will also do nicely.
Bug Spray. There are lots of bugs. Some whose bites itch.
Toiletries kit: Toothbrush, toothpaste, razor, etc.
Lotion, or aloe vera post-sun burn stuff
Saline nasal spray (it can get dry for some out there)
Be they birth control, contact lens solution, just anything that you might possibly need, and enough for a week.
Wet Wipes (yes it’s on here twice)
Sealed container to put any snacks in (wildlife will be attracted to it if you do not. Bears, foxes, insects, oh my!
First of all check the weather and think layers if it’s high in the day and low in the night.
Sturdy, high top shoes that go past your ankle are best. Things with laces may get prickly nature attached to them. You might want to hike as well. This is farm/mountain life!
COSTUMES! Not required but it can be fun. We usually put out a theme of the day and night list prior to the event that’s totally not mandatory.
We have one evening ceremony that is White Night. Bring white clothing or pack whatever is sacred to you.
Check in Times and Process:
There area specific times that you can arrive to the event. Please plan accordingly:
The drive up the road takes about 30 minutes, please plan accordingly. If you have an emergency special needs case please contact V Nixie: firstname.lastname@example.org
Greeters will greet when you've gotten to the last gate!
They will check you off the ticket list. (no one will be admitted who is not on the list) You cannot buy tickets at the gate.
They will check to make sure you've already signed your liability waiver. If not you will need to sign it before entering the event. No one will be admitted who does not sign a waiver.
They will show you where to bring your camping items.
They will direct you where to park.
You can also double check your contribution shifts if you have forgotten them.
Lastly they will tell you important info to keep you safe and happy.
Weather forecast average says it will be highs of 86 F and lows of 49.
Please plan accordingly and check the weather for Piru, CA ahead of time.
You are requested to bring two 2.5 gallon drinking waters (one which is donated to the communal water sharing, and one you'll keep for personal consumption).
There is occasional winds up there so it's important to stake down your tent.
Everyone will sign a liability waiver prior to the event
You must be aware of your footprint, and the way you interact within the spaces we share (i.e. your trash, your personal items, your physical/energetic presence, etc.)
Please introduce yourself to people that you do not know!
Be intentional with what inebriant(s) you partake in.
Picking up after yourself is a given. Please also help to keep the spaces clean even if you had no participation in making them untidy and it's not currently your "job".
Affinity is a sex-positive community, though this event is not a "sex party." To accommodate our friends' personal proclivities, we have a love lounge open for Saturday evening-Monday. This area is a clearly labeled safe space for those who want to get down while leaving the rest of the event space free to enjoy whatever other activities they choose.
You are welcome to bring a vape pen, and we highly encourage it. Smoking of cigarettes and cannabis is only permitted in the marked smoking area due to fire hazard. Considering the fires this year, it is imperative that you only ash in the bucket provided.
Please me mindful of how the smell of smoke clings to an outfit and consider designating a jacket for smoking so we can enjoy your fresh scent when you return to communal areas. :)
Please keep the usage of synthetic perfumes to a minimum or not at all. We will be spending some time in inclosed spaces together and people have allergies. Perfumes and highly scented deodarant will also attract more bugs to you.
I hear there will be a white night; is that suggested or required?
It is not required, although it is encouraged.
Our dear Affinity member and social media lead, Gisele, is from Brazil, where they always wear white for New Year's Eve. According to Gisele, this tradition came from Africa through the Candomblé Religion. It represents "spiritual purification". They would go to the beach in Rio dressed in white and offer roses to Yemaya, the queen of ocean.
The tradition was adopted by everybody else because white for Brazilians also represents harmony, serenity and peace. We've decided to adopt this tradition for ourselves to symbolize our desires to our community love, and our intentional celebration for our sacred sacrament ceremony.
If you do not have white you are welcome to wear whatever is sacred to you.
What are the sleeping arrangements like? Will there be rooms? Can I bring my RV?
This will be an all camping event. There will be a camping area designated for everyone! This year it will be closer to the event in the meadow behind the kitchen. Please bring shade for your tents as it will be sunny!
Car camping this year will be up above the meadow amongst the trees. Optional camping will be up there as well. You will not be able to car camp down below by the event this year.
If you plan to car camp please let us know prior so that we have enough room. If you have not let us know by the Wednesday prior, there may not be space for you to car camp. You can only bring the 21-31 foot RV’s. NO 40 ft ones! They must have a strong engine to go up a mountain road.
There will be porta-potties near the camping area and the car camping area.
Cell Phone Service:
We have discovered that AT&T gets the best service up there. T-Mobile also gets some service. Verizon seems to be the worst but does get service in places. Sprint does not have cell service starting before the town of Piru, has spotty-low service at event space.
It’s a 200 acre space. There are some dead areas and some areas where we have done live video easily. It all depends on where you are and how many people are up there. Do no depend on having cell service.
We have wi-fi access in cases of emergency only.
Your cell service may dip out from the town of Piru until you’re up at the top of the ranch, so please be prepared with your directions.
There will be a driving instructions PDF that goes out right before the event.
The most important thing: GO SLOW UP THE MOUNTAIN ROAD. There are neighbors who live off that road we *must* respect. Go. Slow.
Important info to plan for:
Carpool! Two people per car because the less cars on the land, the better.
RVs larger than 31 will NOT make it due to clearance and space. Go Slow.
Once you get to Lake Piru it will take you about 30 minutes to get up the road to the ranch. Go. Slow.
Please get gas at the Arco in Piru before you come up.
The photos to the left are photos of the road to give you some idea of what it’s like. Go. Slow.
If you are new to the ranch, we would prefer you come during the day; please pay attention to greeter times. If you end up ascending at night, just take it slowly and you’ll be fine. Also, Go. Slow.
The road is up a mountain with enough room for trailers however it does have steep sides to one side so drive slow! Read the signs. Pay attention to the PDF info.
Cars that have gone up and down: Jettas, box trucks, trailers, suvs and so forth. There are a few small streams to cross along the way.
Carpooling: There will be a spreadsheet for carpooling, please carpool!
In conclusion, GO SLOW on the mountain road. And always close gates!
The road is drivable by regular 2-wheel car, but SUV’s are better! Please drive slowly and carefully up the dirt road, follow the instructions so we can maintain a working road during the event.
Watch for Cattle, children, and incoming vehicles.
Speed limit once you are on the Ranch is 5mph. Drive slowly up the road to keep our neighbors happy.
We're in a high fire risk area! Please no smoking on the drive up! There are NO unauthorized fires, including candles, tiki torches, fire pits/stoves, open flames, liquid fuels, or fire tools indoors or outdoors. During the event only, we will have a special area for fire spinning.
No smoking outside of designated area; please enjoy your tobacco by the fire pit.
NEVER smoke or use any type of aromatic materials (incense, sage, etc.) while strolling.
Please stay on designated paths and roads when camping, hiking or driving.
Do not feed or corner any wild animals or the Ranch Cattle.
If cattle are in the road, please don’t honk or they will think you have hay. Just keep driving slowly and they will move over.
All food and trash must be sealed, stored and contained.
Please use Ranch water sparingly for showering and washing.
Please bring drinking water.
Leave no Trace / Pack it in, pack it out, properly removing, bagging and recycling personal trash.
Please be mindful when posting photos of the Ranch and the Gathering on social media.
Please no dogs. There are only 2 ok'd dogs at this event.
We thank you for your consciousness and care of the Ranch and we welcome your presence!
Breathe, love, commune…
Look! New Event Thing!
Things that are different for old timers:
Our community is changing! Yay! Some of us have families, and career focus, and the need to sleep more hours. Thus, the first half of the event (Thursday - Saturday 9pm) is PG 13, family friendly. Ages 5 and under are welcome! Creating space for kids and teens in the future.
By coming to this event you are choosing into community sobriety until Saturday evening. Why? We heard the feedback from our community posing the question: “if you take away the party and/or intoxication, would there still be a community?” and our answer is a resounding YES!
We wish to create intimacy when we’re grounded and sober to foster connections that are true and long-lasting. Saturday evening then becomes a cause to mindfully celebrate these new, old, or rekindled friendships.
At 9pm when we do our cacao sacrament ceremony, sobriety will be lifted.
We hope that in this way we are more consciously and openly finding the balance between all our versions of self. May we all play together and continue moving this communities culture into greater and greater health and mindfulness.
Regarding Men’s and Women’s Circles:
After five years, we are choosing to change one of the key parts of our program: We are no longer doing "Men's" and "Women's" Circles. We will have one large Community Circle on Saturday as a "keynote" group experience.
We believe it is an imperative to get to know one another, to integrate new people, and to work together across the gendered spectrum and collectively rise.
ANNOUNCEMENT REGARDING SACRAMENT
Dearest Resourcery Attendees,
We are pleased to announce that on Saturday night we will be serving a rich and delicious cacao as our sacrament. This is a departure from what we have traditionally served for reasons of liability and safety. (There has not been a negative incident associated with our previous sacrament tradition and we have decided to keep the golden track record by changing the ceremony.) That being said, you are welcome to bring your own medicine as an accompaniment to the cacao if you so desire. We believe the power of Saturday night sacrament is the safe container and intention we set for the night; the only difference now is you choose your journey. We support what journey you choose to intentionally take.
***These are optional Costume Themes to help you pack. It is not required. However, White Night has always been a tradition in Affinity. We do encourage you to bring whatever you feel is ceremonious/sacred to you***
It’s going to be HOT during the day (80s). Please keep this in mind when choosing day time attire. The nights will be cool (50s). We recommend you check the weather before coming <3
No Theme - Wear whatever you like and show your creativity and expression through your clothing. This is a relaxed evening.
Day AND Night - TBA
Day - Day of Intimacy. Flowy Comfortable Breathable, Magical Garb, Assless chaps, Beach Babes, Ranch Babes, Summer Camp, Girl Scout, Boy Scout, Bright Colors, Crop Tops, Shorts, Mankinis, Bikinis, Bootylicious Shorts, Mesh. Choose your comfy!
Night - White Night Ceremony
Spiritual or Ceremonious - This is our traditional White Night where Everyone wears White! You can also wear whatever is true to your inner self. Whatever is sacred to YOU!
Day - Eccentric Color Splash! Childs-play!
Bring the most eccentric things in your closet!
Psychedelic Prints, Glitter Horse, Sparkles, Rainbow, Psychedelic Colors, Explosions, All The Colors Of The Rainbow, Silly, Clowns, Characters, Cosplay, Wigs, Everything In Your Wardrobe, Gold And Glorious, Shiny And Sparkly, Pool Toys, Props…. EVERYTHING
Night - Psychedelic Cozy
Cozy, Colorful, Onesies, Fluffy, PJ’s, Comfy, Fun Colors, Soft, Fuzzy, Cuddly, Psychedelic Prints, Fancy Silk Bathrobes
4:00pm | EVENT START!! GATES OPEN!!!
5:00p - 8:00p | TBA
7:00p - 8:30p | Potluck Dinner!
9:00p - 10:00p | Newbie Camp - everyone welcome
10:00 - 11:00p | TBA
11:00p GATE CLOSES
9:30a - 11:00a | Open Continental Breakfast!
10:00a GATE OPENS
12:00p - 1:00p | Daniellow and Lily Lifestyle Workshop - “There Will be More Cookies”
2:00p - 3:00p | Lunch!
3:30p - 4:30p | Workshop A- Best Performances -- Maximize your body’s health and ability to heal your own injuries!
3:30p - 4:30p | Workshop B- TBA
5:00p - 6:15p | Yoga
7:00 - 8:00p | Dinner!
8:00p - 9:00p | Opening Ceremony Featuring Vesper Sound Bath
9:00p - 10:30p | Ecstatic Dance - Hosted by?!
10:00p GATE CLOSES
10:00p - 11:00p | Newbie Camp (Meet at barn)- Everyone welcome
9:00p - 11:00a | DJ
11:00a - 1:00a | DJ
8:00a GATE OPENS
9:30a - 11:00a | Continental Breakfast!
10:00a GATE CLOSES NO MORE NEWCOMERS
11:30a - 1:30p | Community Circle
2:00p - 3:00p | Lunch!
3:30p - 4:45p | Workshop A - Burden of Intelligence
3:30p - 4:45p | Workshop B - Storyteller’s Jam Session - Hollis Doherty Hosting
4:45p - 5:00p | Recess
5:00p - 6:00p | Newbie Camp (meet at barn) Everyone welcome
5:00p - 6:15p | Yoga
7:00p - 8:00p | Dinner!
8:00p - 9:00p | Eyes of Affinity by Peter Leal
9:00p Sobriety is lifted
9:00p - 10:00p | Cacao ceremony and Archetype Exploration
10:00p-3:00a | Tea lounge in barn by Ashley Semerc and Nairi
10:00p - 11:30a | DJ 1
11:30a - 1:00a | DJ 2
1:00a - 2:30a | DJ 3
2:30a - 4:00a | DJ 4
4:00a - 5:30a | DJ 5
6am Group photo at sunrise?!
6:00a - 8:00a | Live sets
Group Nap (sound off)
11:30a - 1:00p | Brunch!
1:30p - 2:30p | Workshop/DJ Set
2:30p - 3:30p | Musical Moments
3:30p - 4:30p | DJ 2
4:30p - 5:30p | DJ 3
5:30p - 6:30p | DJ 3
5:30p - 6:30p I Workshop? TBA
6:30p - 7:30p | Sunset Live Music
8:30p - 9:30p Dinner and Live Music Concert
9:30p-10:45p concert continues while dinner wraps
11p - 12a | Closing Ceremony
11:00a - 12:00pm | Leftover Feast!
12:30p Close and Community Clean Up !
By coming to this event you are choosing into community sobriety until Saturday evening.
Why? We heard the feedback from our community posing the question “if you take away the party and/or intoxication, would there still be a community?” and our answer is a resounding YES!
We want to create intimacy when we’re grounded and sober to foster connections that are true and long-lasting. Saturday evening then becomes a cause to mindfully celebrate these new, old, or rekindled friendships.
At 9pm when we do our cacao sacrament ceremony, sobriety will be lifted.
We hope that in this way we are more consciously and openly running the gamut between all the versions of ourselves. Come join our game! Come create new culture that exists in all dynamics!
Leaders to Look Out For
Breakfast each day:
Reg and G/F toast
Bring food to share for a potluck dinner
Lunch- sushi bowls with brown rice, greens, watermelon poke, tofu and mushroom sauté, pickled vegetables, sesame sprouts, and assorted sauces
Dinner- pasta three ways: edamame spaghetti or zucchini noodles, veggie bolognese, cashew Alfredo, or pesto sauces, roasted vegetables, green salad.
Lunch- tacos with sweet potato/black bean/corn filling or jackfruit/mushroom filling, creamy vegan slaw, fresh salsa, avocado aioli, yumm sauce, and rice and beans
Dinner- gluten free pad Thai with tofu and veggies, peanut sauce, and spicy sauce, Tom Kah soup, papaya salad
Brunch- reg and V/GF pancakes, waffled French toast, fruit compote, yogurt, almond butter, syrup, all the toppings! Fruit and possibly tofu scramble.
Dinner- reg and GF grilled cheese or grilled veggie sandwiches, tomato soup, curry soup, garden salad. Plus all the leftovers!
Full leftovers day because we always have them and we like to use everything that we bring!